Bennelong also found on his return that his domestic arrangements had also changed. While Bennelong was in England Kurúbarabúla became the companion of Caruey, a young Gadigal related to Colebee. This resulted in the inevitable conflict and show of strength. Unusually, Bennelong chose the British bare-knuckle method rather than traditional spear-and-shield.[1] During his absence Bennelong’s brick hut was hardly used and in March 1793 it was made available to the visiting Spanish expedition of Don Alejandro Malaspina. The expedition made astronomical observations from the point and used the building for the safe-keeping of its instruments. In November 1795 the hut was demolished and the bricks re-used at South Head.[2] The removal of the hut was a clear indication that Bennelong was either absent from the settlement or preferred to reside at Government House when in Sydney.
Bennelong was now living between two worlds. There were expectations held by the British community that he would be assimilated and his behaviour appeared to indicate this. He was also a senior man of the Wangal and needed to reassert his authority that had been so carefully cultivated prior to his departure.[3] This reasserting of authority was accompanied by violent conflict. In the month after his return Henry Waterhouse stated in a letter to his father that, ‘Benalong is turning as great a Savage as ever’.[4] One such conflict was with Coleby that resulted in Bennelong receiving injuries to his teeth and jaws after he attempted unsuccessfully to press his attentions on Boorea, Coleby’s companion. Coleby asked Bennelong sarcastically 'if he meant that kind of conduct to be a specimen of English manners?'.[5]
Almost a year after his return, Bennelong dictated a letter and had it forwarded to Mr and Mrs Phillips of Eltham. In this plaintive letter to England he had not forgotten those who had assisted him during his illness. If it is an accurate account then he Bennelong had further conflict with Caruey and that in 1796 he was spending a significant amount of time at Government House.[6]
[1] His inquiries were directed, immediately on his arrival, after his wife Go-roo-bar-roo-bool-lo; and her he found with Caruey. On producing a very fashionable rose-coloured petticoat and jacket made of a coarse stuff, accompanied with a gypsy bonnet of the same colour, she deserted her lover, and followed her former husband. In a few days however, to the surprise of every one, we saw the lady walking unencumbered with clothing of any kind, and Bennillong was missing. Caruey was sought for, and we heard that he had been severely beaten by Bennillong at Rose Bay, who retained so much of our customs, that he made use of his fists instead of the weapons of his country, to the great annoyance of Caruey, who would have preferred meeting his rival fairly in the field armed with the spear and the club. Caruey being much the younger man, the lady, every inch a woman, followed her inclination, and Bennillong was compelled to yield her without any further opposition. He seemed to have been satisfied with the beating he had given Caruey, and hinted, that resting for the present without a wife, he should look about him, and at some future period make a better choice. (Collins vol 1)
[2] McBryde 17 and Collins, I, 231
[3] His absences from the governor's house now became frequent, and little attended to. When he went out he usually left his clothes behind, resuming them carefully on his return before he made his visit to the governor. (Collins, I)
[4] SLNSW 24 October 1795 Henry Waterhouse to William Waterhouse Collection 21: William Waterhouse - Letters written by Henry Waterhouse to his father, 1788-1801; and other papers, 1782-1803
[5] About this time Bennillong, who occasionally shook off the habits of civilized life, and went for a few days into the woods with his sisters and other friends, sent in word that he had had a contest with his bosom friend Cole-be, in which he had been so much the sufferer, that until his wounds were healed he could not with any pleasure to himself appear at the governor's table. This notification was accompanied with a request, that his clothes, which he had left behind him when he went away, might be sent him, together with some victuals, of which he was much in want.
On his coming among us again, he appeared with a wound on his mouth, which had divided the upper lip and broke two of the teeth of that jaw. His features, never very pleasing, now seemed out of all proportion, and his pronunciation was much altered. Finding himself badly received among the females (although improved by his travels in the little attentions that are supposed to have their weight with the sex) and not being able to endure a life of celibacy, which had been his condition from the day of his departure from this country until nearly the present hour, he made an attack upon his friend's favourite, Boo-ree-a, in which he was not only unsuccessful, but was punished for his breach of friendship, as above related, by Cole-be, who sarcastically asked him, 'if he meant that kind of conduct to be a specimen of English manners?' (Collins vol 1)
[6] Sidney Cove. New S. Wales Augst. 29 1796
Sir, I am very well. I hope you are very well. I live at the Governor's. I have every day dinner there. I have not my wife; another black man took her away; we have had murry [big/many] doings: he speared me in the back, but I better now: his name is now Carroway [Caruey], all my friends alive and well. Not me go to England no more. I am at home now. I hope Sir you send me anything you please Sir. hope all is well in England. I hope Mrs. Phillips very well. You nurse me Madam when I sick, you very good Madam: thank you Madam, & hope you remember me Madam, not forget. I know you very well Madam. Madam, send me two Pair stockings. You very good Madam. Thank you Madam. Sir, you give my duty to Ld Sydney. Thank you very good my Lord. very good: hope very well all family, very well. Sir, send me you please Some Handkerchiefs for Pocket. you please Sir send me some shoes: two pair you please Sir.Bannolong (Bennelong to Phillips, 29 August 1796, MS4005, NK4048, National Library of Australia, Canberra)